“Every man lives with the specter that he is letting someone down,” a pastor once told our men’s group.
The 17 years since have proven the declaration’s truth.
A specter is “a visible ghost or phantom, or a haunting, frightening mental image of something that is a source of dread or fear.” Dread comes from all quarters. Men aren’t good enough husbands, fathers, employees or providers for their families.
Sometimes, that sense of inadequacy is reinforced from the pulpit. I sat behind a dad and his son during church on Father’s Day several years ago. The sermon focused on how fathers “need to pick it up,” supported by statistics about absentee dads. “Dad,” the son whispered, “how come Mom got roses on Mother’s Day, and you get a lecture?” [Read more…]






